Post by KSSunflower on Feb 7, 2021 14:04:48 GMT -6
We talk a lot about how we can get our spouse to desire sex more. This is the first I've seen this mentioned as a way to have more desire.
This article mentions a study that found
It does warn
www.psypost.org/2020/06/gratitude-predicts-greater-sexual-communal-strength-in-romantic-couples-57108?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=gratitude-predicts-greater-sexual-communal-strength-in-romantic-couples
This makes sense to me because it's very similar to how it works with kids. Positive reinforcement when children do something good often leads to a desire to repeat that behavior. At the same time, if the praise is too general, or too frequent, it will lose it's affect.
I think this can apply to adults as well. We still need to feel appreciated from time to time and know that we are seen.
This article mentions a study that found
...simply experiencing gratitude toward, or receiving gratitude from, a romantic partner can increase your motivation to fulfill your partner’s sexual needs and can help maintain this motivation over time.
It does warn
...it is possible that people may eventually become desensitized to the benefits of gratitude if they are frequently experiencing or receiving gratitude for the same reasons over and over again.
www.psypost.org/2020/06/gratitude-predicts-greater-sexual-communal-strength-in-romantic-couples-57108?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=gratitude-predicts-greater-sexual-communal-strength-in-romantic-couples
This makes sense to me because it's very similar to how it works with kids. Positive reinforcement when children do something good often leads to a desire to repeat that behavior. At the same time, if the praise is too general, or too frequent, it will lose it's affect.
I think this can apply to adults as well. We still need to feel appreciated from time to time and know that we are seen.