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Aug 18, 2019 18:11:44 GMT -6
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Post by rocks on Aug 18, 2019 18:11:44 GMT -6
My wife recently went to the temple, I grew up LDS but haven’t been through myself. Her garments really bug me bad. In fact, they scare me to death! I feel like laying in bed with her God is burning holes through me. How do you get past this? She said if I knew what they meant I’d be just fine with them. I just feel like I’m not worthy to touch her anymore. I don’t want her to quit wearing them because I can see how much the temple means to her. I am just hoping to fix whatever is wrong with me. We have been together since high school 20+ years. We had some tough times like several years ago when she was active in addiction. She got help and has been clean over 2 years. I have been worried the temple would change things for us. The last 2 years we have been happy it has made the addiction years worth it. During those years I really lost faith in everything I believed in. I felt like God doesn’t hear me anymore. I feel horrible being like this especially since it all worked out for the best. I am scared of anything changing for us and loosing what we finally got back. I know I can’t be the only one that has felt like this. Please help!
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Post by KSSunflower on Aug 19, 2019 0:20:42 GMT -6
My wife recently went to the temple, I grew up LDS but haven’t been through myself. Her garments really bug me bad. In fact, they scare me to death! I feel like laying in bed with her God is burning holes through me. How do you get past this? She said if I knew what they meant I’d be just fine with them. I just feel like I’m not worthy to touch her anymore. I don’t want her to quit wearing them because I can see how much the temple means to her. I am just hoping to fix whatever is wrong with me. We have been together since high school 20+ years. We had some tough times like several years ago when she was active in addiction. She got help and has been clean over 2 years. I have been worried the temple would change things for us. The last 2 years we have been happy it has made the addiction years worth it. During those years I really lost faith in everything I believed in. I felt like God doesn’t hear me anymore. I feel horrible being like this especially since it all worked out for the best. I am scared of anything changing for us and loosing what we finally got back. I know I can’t be the only one that has felt like this. Please help! Hello rocks. Welcome to the forum. I can't say I have felt exactly as you do but I can understand feeling that way. I'm sure in some way you feel she's purer or more holy than before she went through the temple. She has turned her self away from addiction. This is a good thing and I'm glad you can see that. Before, you probably felt more equal. Now that she's taken this step forward on her spiritual journey you must feel like she's ahead of you. What prevents you from going through the temple also? I hope you know that nothing is wrong with you and your wife being together. You are married. I can only think of good things coming from sharing intimacy as husband and wife, whether you've been through the temple or not. My only suggestion is that if you feel unworthy of your wife that you take steps to be the worthy man you think she deserves. Although, she probably already sees you that way. |
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Post by edshubby on Aug 20, 2019 15:22:47 GMT -6
My wife recently went to the temple, I grew up LDS but haven’t been through myself. Her garments really bug me bad. In fact, they scare me to death! I feel like laying in bed with her God is burning holes through me. How do you get past this? She said if I knew what they meant I’d be just fine with them. I just feel like I’m not worthy to touch her anymore. I don’t want her to quit wearing them because I can see how much the temple means to her. I am just hoping to fix whatever is wrong with me. We have been together since high school 20+ years. We had some tough times like several years ago when she was active in addiction. She got help and has been clean over 2 years. I have been worried the temple would change things for us. The last 2 years we have been happy it has made the addiction years worth it. During those years I really lost faith in everything I believed in. I felt like God doesn’t hear me anymore. I feel horrible being like this especially since it all worked out for the best. I am scared of anything changing for us and loosing what we finally got back. I know I can’t be the only one that has felt like this. Please help! I think you really need to dig deep and examine each of your thoughts and challenge them. First, understand that God doesn’t forbid sexual relations between a man and a woman who are married to each other. Prophets and apostles have recently spoken about how sex has two purposes — for reproduction and for bonding between husband and wife. This hasn’t changed just because your wife has received the endowment. For me, I’m much more disturbed by urine leaks and wet farts soiling the garment. I don’t view sexual touch between husband and wife through the garment as an issue at all. Private sexy thoughts and acts between husband and wife are free of sin. They don’t taint anything that is holy. |
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Aug 24, 2019 22:42:08 GMT -6
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Post by rocks on Aug 24, 2019 22:42:08 GMT -6
Thank you KS and Ed for your thoughts. I haven’t had time to reply back but I have been thinking a lot about what you both told me. I have made a list of my hang ups and fears on going through the temple too. Hopefully seeing them written will make them easier to work through. I like your thought on making myself who she deserves I hadn’t thought about it with that perspective. I am really grateful to know I’m not bringing her down touching her. I am still a little scared of them but I feel better having a plan. Thank you!
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