Post by sumdudesfrysauce on Aug 9, 2019 16:09:10 GMT -6
I've been thinking about how I connect with my wife or at least try. Something I realized is that there are two ways people connect..... I think anyway.
The first is by trying to get someone's attention, often called reaching out or in verbal terms: " I'm trying to connect with you." Everyone is familiar with this.
The second which is my AH HA moment is what I call "trying to connect you to me". Maybe you all already understand this.
A perfect illustration of the difference between both is as follows:
Sit down with someone facing each other just less than arms length. Now reach out and touch the other person. Depending on how you do it, you might end up pushing them away. This is trying to connect. Put your arms back to your sides.
Now reach out to the other person but instead of trying to make contact with them, take their hand in yours and bring it to you, placing it over your heart. This is connecting you to me.
To me, this alone is big difference and I can't help but wonder if trying to connect our spouses to us might effect a greater result, a stronger bond.
To me, it seems like the difference is in who is vulnerable first. If I want to connect to you, I’m asking you to be vulnerable and let me in. If I want you to connect to me, I’m being vulnerable and letting you in.