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Post by KSSunflower on Jun 10, 2019 21:13:04 GMT -6
I saw this recently. The advice is pretty standard. www.ldsliving.com/Ask-a-Latter-day-Saint-Therapist-I-m-in-a-Sex-Starved-Marriage-What-Should-I-Do/s/91008What do you think of the part that says a woman should be queen of her own body? It seems to be contrary to 1 Corinthians 7:4 which says "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife." I agree "The marriage covenant does not give the man the right to enslave her, or to abuse her, or to use her merely for the gratification of his passion." Is the expectation of sex enslaving, abusive, or selfish? If a woman has power over her body, does a man have power over his? If yes, in what way? When you read the above scripture how does that make you feel when your spouse denies you sex but also expects you to not do anything sexually until they are ready to have sex again? How can we bring these two ideas above in better alignment?
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Post by edshubby on Jun 10, 2019 22:19:05 GMT -6
I saw this recently. The advice is pretty standard. www.ldsliving.com/Ask-a-Latter-day-Saint-Therapist-I-m-in-a-Sex-Starved-Marriage-What-Should-I-Do/s/91008What do you think of the part that says a woman should be queen of her own body? It seems to be contrary to 1 Corinthians 7:4 which says "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife." I agree "The marriage covenant does not give the man the right to enslave her, or to abuse her, or to use her merely for the gratification of his passion." Is the expectation of sex enslaving, abusive, or selfish? If a woman has power over her body, does a man have power over his? If yes, in what way? When you read the above scripture how does that make you feel when your spouse denies you sex but also expects you to not do anything sexually until they are ready to have sex again? How can we bring these two ideas above in better alignment? Leaving aside the fact that the partner with the higher libido isn’t always the guy, and that work in the home is still work, when I think of a “traditional marriage,” sex was viewed as a “wifely duty” while providing for his wife was a husband’s duty. That’s how men didn’t have power over their own bodies. His wife had claim on him for her support. Is the expectation of your husband bringing home a paycheck “enslaving, abusive, or selfish”?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2019 22:22:54 GMT -6
"Your wife’s sexuality is a gift she chooses to give, and if she’s not choosing to give it, you two together need to figure out why."
Ummm, so I guess my paycheck is a gift I choose to give and if I'm not giving it, we need to figure out why?
This article was crap, incorrect, and in my opinion unhelpful.
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Post by lumpy on Nov 26, 2019 13:25:37 GMT -6
From the article:
So if one partner has no desire, the other partner must be considerate and sensitive to that, and not bother them for sex. Sounds simplistic, but this is how it works out.
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Post by edshubby on Nov 27, 2019 16:29:33 GMT -6
From the article: So if one partner has no desire, the other partner must be considerate and sensitive to that, and not bother them for sex. Sounds simplistic, but this is how it works out. I think that’s a skewed reading of the passage. You could just as easily say that the one who doesn’t want to have sex isn’t being tender or respectful, or considerate and sensitive to the other’s needs and desires.
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