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Post by KSSunflower on Apr 3, 2019 12:20:54 GMT -6
Do you think it could lead to cheating? When would your partner's flirting begin to bother you? I read this www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a26986841/is-flirting-cheating/?source=nl&utm_source=nl_wmh&utm_medium=email&date=033119&src=nl&utm_campaign=16416438It says innocent flirting can become a slippery slope and turn into cheating, but that it's not a form of cheating if it stays at that level. They define flirting as such: "Flirting is when you intentionally want to attract the attention of someone, or when you signal an interest in interacting more with someone. These actions don't necessarily mean you want to have sex or become emotionally close to that person." It does caution that "How these behaviors are interpreted is another thing." While you think your flirty vibe is just another part of your personality, the person you're flirting with could see it as a desire for a relationship or a sexual connect. Then goes on to list 6 signs you're crossing the line and what to do if you've crossed any lines. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2019 21:14:27 GMT -6
While I agree it could be a slippery slope, flirting is healthy. It keeps us on our toes and helps me at least keep that skill honed so that marriage doesn't get stale... though it does take two to tango.
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Post by edshubby on Apr 4, 2019 9:48:53 GMT -6
While I agree it could be a slippery slope, flirting is healthy. It keeps us on our toes and helps me at least keep that skill honed so that marriage doesn't get stale... though it does take two to tango. But can’t you keep your flirting skills honed by practicing them with your spouse? Why does that require another person? |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2019 9:59:35 GMT -6
Because your wife isn't a cold open. It's like saying go practice cold call salesmanship on someone you interact with regularly, you know well, and who knows your product well.
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Post by edshubby on Apr 4, 2019 10:03:26 GMT -6
Do you think it could lead to cheating? When would your partner's flirting begin to bother you? I read this www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a26986841/is-flirting-cheating/?source=nl&utm_source=nl_wmh&utm_medium=email&date=033119&src=nl&utm_campaign=16416438It says innocent flirting can become a slippery slope and turn into cheating, but that it's not a form of cheating if it stays at that level. They define flirting as such: "Flirting is when you intentionally want to attract the attention of someone, or when you signal an interest in interacting more with someone. These actions don't necessarily mean you want to have sex or become emotionally close to that person." It does caution that "How these behaviors are interpreted is another thing." While you think your flirty vibe is just another part of your personality, the person you're flirting with could see it as a desire for a relationship or a sexual connect. Then goes on to list 6 signs you're crossing the line and what to do if you've crossed any lines. I think their definition needs some work. Flirting is inherently romantic. I wouldn’t say I am flirting with a coworker simply because I enjoy working and talking with them and demonstrate that interest. That’s called being friendly. I would say that there are three types of flirting: One is serious romantic flirting. I don’t think further explanation is required. I think this is inappropriate with anyone besides your spouse and is a form of cheating. Second is playful flirting. You’re not seriously flirting with the other person in a romantic way, but it’s more like playing a game or putting on a bit of theater. I think this falls in the category of “not technically cheating, but not necessarily a great idea” because there is a danger of being misunderstood or crossing the line to serious romantic flirting. Last is plausible deniability flirting. This is flirting that is intentionally ambiguous so as to be able to pretend that it’s just playful flirting or just being friendly, when in reality your emotions and desires are more akin to romantic flirting. |
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Post by KSSunflower on Apr 4, 2019 10:18:14 GMT -6
Thanks for sharing your perspectives.
There was one thought I forgot to mention when I wrote the post. If flirting is about seeking attention from somebody, is it modest to flirt with others who aren't your spouse?
I know other animals ruffle their feathers or make some kind of show to attract a mate. However, once you have a mate is that attention really a good idea?
Sumdudes, brought up how it keeps us healthy. I know it can give a nice ego boost.
Some people are more sexual immediately following flirtations. Edshubby could be correct that there is always some kind of underlying sexual purpose intended (or taken), even if it's done playfully.
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Post by NeverGiveUp on Apr 10, 2019 21:33:18 GMT -6
I think there is a different type of flirting. There is having fun and there is unbridled flirting.
We each know when it's one and when it's the other.
I think a lot of it has to do with the state of your marriage. For mine, my wife would sooner peel potato's that flirt. She would also rather peel potato's than have sex too, so ...
I have been in both situations and I can tell you have different intentions, so consider you intentions when you flirt. If you are flirting privately it's probably not good. If you are flirting in public and others see you, chances are you are fine.
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Post by twuewuv on Apr 25, 2019 19:20:27 GMT -6
I don't think there is such thing as innocent flirting. I think it is a lesser form of cheating that will lead to a more serious form of cheating.
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