Post by KSSunflower on Mar 26, 2019 23:19:11 GMT -6
I wanted to make a post about outercourse. Outercourse is basically any sex that is non-penetrative. I think a lot of focus is put on intercourse. We tend to see intercourse as the main event of a sexual interaction. Some might even be disappointed if it doesn't happen, perhaps thinking is doesn't count if it doesn't involve penetration. However, sex takes on many forms. I found a few links that I thought explained the importance of outercourse. They also give some ideas on how to incorporate it into your sexual menu.
"The bottom line? Outercourse doesn't only have to be the appetizer to the main (inter)course." It can be the main meal.
The Ultimate Guide to Outercourse
Tips and Tricks discussed are Karezza technique, double masturbation, grinding and sex toys.
Bustle - How to have outercourse with a partner because it's more important to your sex life than you might think They list 6 ways to partake in outercourse with brief explanations. Making Out, sensual massage, vibrator, dry humping, bdsm play, and clitoral stimulation.
CNN article - Intercourse isn't everything for most women, says study
It also briefly discusses communication being the key as well as a plugin for the OMGYES website (contains a series of videos that demonstrate different types of touch that real women find pleasurable, including techniques labeled "edging," "layering" and "orbiting." There is a free preview but a cost to access all of them).
Think Outside The Box: The Beginner's Guide To Enjoying Outercourse
This blog talks about how sex changes when we age, the positives and negatives. It has a lot of useful information on how to "focus on all the ways you can enjoy sexual intimacy instead of fixating on the ways you can’t."
It lists several ways you can engage in outercourse, as well as some tips to keep in mind.
"The bottom line? Outercourse doesn't only have to be the appetizer to the main (inter)course." It can be the main meal.
The Ultimate Guide to Outercourse
Focusing only on penetrative sex can lead to a lot of these people feeling not just left out of sexual discourse, but actually make them feel ‘broken’ in some way. Like they cannot enjoy physical pleasure, because their body doesn’t work in the exact way they have been shown in sex education classes or seen in porn.
Outercourse, aka ‘non-penetrative sex‘, can open up new avenues of sexual exploration for these people, and it can also help us broaden everyone’s sexual horizons by taking the focus off what’s ‘expected’ and shining a light on different kinds of pleasure.
Outercourse, aka ‘non-penetrative sex‘, can open up new avenues of sexual exploration for these people, and it can also help us broaden everyone’s sexual horizons by taking the focus off what’s ‘expected’ and shining a light on different kinds of pleasure.
Tips and Tricks discussed are Karezza technique, double masturbation, grinding and sex toys.
Bustle - How to have outercourse with a partner because it's more important to your sex life than you might think They list 6 ways to partake in outercourse with brief explanations. Making Out, sensual massage, vibrator, dry humping, bdsm play, and clitoral stimulation.
CNN article - Intercourse isn't everything for most women, says study
"When we equate intercourse and sex and call everything that comes before intercourse 'foreplay,' we are buying into the cultural script that sex should proceed as follows: foreplay (just enough to get her ready for intercourse), intercourse (during which both women and men orgasm), and game over," Mintz said. But sex doesn't have to involve intercourse at all. Even when it does, other forms of stimulation can add to the experience and may improve the odds of reaching orgasm.
Herbenick suggested that couples take a lesson from the early days of their relationship. "Sometimes, when people are first getting together, they spend time making out and touching each other's genitals long before they start having oral sex or intercourse with each other," she explained. "All too often, once oral sex and intercourse become part of their routine, the rest fades away -- which is too bad, considering how powerful genital touching can be."
Herbenick suggested that couples take a lesson from the early days of their relationship. "Sometimes, when people are first getting together, they spend time making out and touching each other's genitals long before they start having oral sex or intercourse with each other," she explained. "All too often, once oral sex and intercourse become part of their routine, the rest fades away -- which is too bad, considering how powerful genital touching can be."
It also briefly discusses communication being the key as well as a plugin for the OMGYES website (contains a series of videos that demonstrate different types of touch that real women find pleasurable, including techniques labeled "edging," "layering" and "orbiting." There is a free preview but a cost to access all of them).
Think Outside The Box: The Beginner's Guide To Enjoying Outercourse
There’s a common misconception in our culture that sexuality and sexual activity go by the wayside as we age. It may be true that some kinds of sexual activity, such as penetrative intercourse, are more challenging as our bodies change. But that doesn’t mean anyone’s sex life should end after age 50.
In fact, opportunities to enjoy sex abound thanks to outercourse, or non-penetrative sexual activity. Shifting the focus to outercourse can open up a whole new world of sexual experimentation, excitement, intensity, and pleasure.
In fact, opportunities to enjoy sex abound thanks to outercourse, or non-penetrative sexual activity. Shifting the focus to outercourse can open up a whole new world of sexual experimentation, excitement, intensity, and pleasure.
This blog talks about how sex changes when we age, the positives and negatives. It has a lot of useful information on how to "focus on all the ways you can enjoy sexual intimacy instead of fixating on the ways you can’t."
Outercourse is a wonderful way to feel connected to your partner and enjoy sexual intimacy without penetrative activities. It’s also a great way for women to experience orgasms (since many women require more than penetration to climax) and for men to be sexual without worrying about how they’ll perform during penetrative intercourse. In fact, men can orgasm during outercourse even if they aren’t able to sustain an erection.
