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Post by KSSunflower on Aug 9, 2018 18:43:18 GMT -6
I never thought that a pet would come between me and sex, but that’s exactly what has happened. I got a dog and she’s been more work than I thought she would be. Basically she has taken role of protector of the house. I feel anxious all day long anticipating what might set her off.
By the end of the day I’m just exhausted. I just try to keep it together until my husband gets home but his arrival also means added stress because the dog seems to forget who he is after he leaves for work. In the morning he’s taking her for walks, in the afternoon when he gets home she’s barking at him like he’s a threat.
I’m totally regretting getting this dog. I don’t want to give up on her but she’s totally wrecked the life I had before. I miss sex with my husband.
Any pet owners been through something similar?
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Aug 26, 2018 20:01:34 GMT -6
Post by NeverGiveUp on Aug 26, 2018 20:01:34 GMT -6
What kind of Dog are we talking about?
Are you familiar with Cesar Millan (the dog whisperer)? Start watching some of his videos' to see if you can figure out why your dog is barking at your husband. Is he nervous? Is he territorial, is he protecting you?
Often these dogs pick up on our own insecurities (they understand energy) and react in a way to protect us so often, their response of Barking is in response to our nervous behavior. I have no idea in this situation, but it's interesting to try and figure it out.
Also, Cesar is not a dog trainer, he calls himself a dog psychologist -- Meaning he gets to the root of why the dog is doing what he's doing.
For example, if you pet your dog to get them to calm down when they are barking, you are actually telling the dog good job. Your re-inforcing the bad behavior.
Anyway, I'm a dog lover and I love a well behaved dog. Give it a look and let me know if you have questions.
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Post by KSSunflower on Aug 27, 2018 22:44:29 GMT -6
Thanks for the advice. I was looking more for discussion on how pets can become a barrier between husband and wife connecting sexually. Especially at first, when the dog requires a lot of attention and training. It’s a lot like having a colicky baby or high needs child. It’s takes a lot of time away from each other.
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Aug 30, 2018 23:18:30 GMT -6
Post by NeverGiveUp on Aug 30, 2018 23:18:30 GMT -6
Oh sorry. yeah when we got our dog it certainly detracted. Anything that causes stress is a detractor for my marriage.
I'm learning to let it go.
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