Post by KSSunflower on Jul 21, 2018 16:28:20 GMT -6
I’m putting this here for right now but I think I’ll need to make a new section for this.
m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3127091
Some highlights
1. Personal power vs neediness
—sense of self-worth and sense of security and lovability are tied to how your partner treats you rather than to how you feel about yourself and to how you treat yourself.
—taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and well-being. When you have learned to love and value yourself, then making love with your beloved is a way to express your love rather than a way to get love and validation.
2. Time for connection
—Intimacy and passion do not flourish without time together to play, learn, grow, share and connect.
—Having fun together, playing together, being able to laugh and joke together, are vital parts of an emotionally and sexually intimate and connected relationship, and they take time. If you want your sex life to be fun and alive, you need to create time for fun and aliveness
3. Newness
—Relationships get boring when there is nothing new happening, and they flourish when each partner continues to learn and grow in the relationship.
4. Conflict
—People who avoid conflict by giving in or withdrawing, or people who attack and blame and have to be right and win, create an unsafe relationship environment where conflicts don’t get resolved.
—You cannot shut down your feelings of heartache without shutting down your loving feelings, as these feelings reside in the same place in the heart.
—Opening to learning about yourself and your partner, rather than giving yourself up, withdrawing, getting angry or blaming will go a long way toward opening up your sex life to more fun and passion.
5. Control
—If one or both of you are controlling — with judgment, criticism, anger, blame or neediness — the other person may shut down to not be controlled.
—Consensual control can play an exciting role in lovemaking.
6. Safety, by allowing each other to be truly important to each of you
—Feeling fully seen, accepted, valued and cherished are really wonderful experiences, and these feelings can generate the kind of safety that leads to intimacy, spontaneity and aliveness in the relationship and in the bedroom.
7. Staying fit, healthy and sexy
—Sexiness may include many things — an inviting smile, being flirtatious with your partner, and alluring clothing, as well as a fit and healthy body.
—While love is much more than skin deep, it’s definitely sexy to some people see their partner taking physical care of his or her physical health and fitness.
m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3127091
Some highlights
1. Personal power vs neediness
—sense of self-worth and sense of security and lovability are tied to how your partner treats you rather than to how you feel about yourself and to how you treat yourself.
—taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and well-being. When you have learned to love and value yourself, then making love with your beloved is a way to express your love rather than a way to get love and validation.
2. Time for connection
—Intimacy and passion do not flourish without time together to play, learn, grow, share and connect.
—Having fun together, playing together, being able to laugh and joke together, are vital parts of an emotionally and sexually intimate and connected relationship, and they take time. If you want your sex life to be fun and alive, you need to create time for fun and aliveness
3. Newness
—Relationships get boring when there is nothing new happening, and they flourish when each partner continues to learn and grow in the relationship.
4. Conflict
—People who avoid conflict by giving in or withdrawing, or people who attack and blame and have to be right and win, create an unsafe relationship environment where conflicts don’t get resolved.
—You cannot shut down your feelings of heartache without shutting down your loving feelings, as these feelings reside in the same place in the heart.
—Opening to learning about yourself and your partner, rather than giving yourself up, withdrawing, getting angry or blaming will go a long way toward opening up your sex life to more fun and passion.
5. Control
—If one or both of you are controlling — with judgment, criticism, anger, blame or neediness — the other person may shut down to not be controlled.
—Consensual control can play an exciting role in lovemaking.
6. Safety, by allowing each other to be truly important to each of you
—Feeling fully seen, accepted, valued and cherished are really wonderful experiences, and these feelings can generate the kind of safety that leads to intimacy, spontaneity and aliveness in the relationship and in the bedroom.
7. Staying fit, healthy and sexy
—Sexiness may include many things — an inviting smile, being flirtatious with your partner, and alluring clothing, as well as a fit and healthy body.
—While love is much more than skin deep, it’s definitely sexy to some people see their partner taking physical care of his or her physical health and fitness.
