Post by KSSunflower on Jul 3, 2018 15:13:24 GMT -6
This was given by Laura Brotherson in Meridian Magazine See article
Some highlights...
Some things she had her client do that can be used to nurture one's sexuality:
1. We identified things she could read or listen to on her cell phone to positively affirm and reprogram her mind about sex. This was similar to how she had been reading and listening to spiritual materials regularly to nurture her spirituality.
2. She started listening to romantic songs on the radio, like she had often listened to church music. She compiled a playlist of songs that made her think about and desire more intimate connection with her husband. This created more balance in her life between music that nourished her spiritually and music that nourished her intimately.
3. She started praying about and changing her self-talk about sex. This was akin to the prayerful thoughts she often had in her heart and mind regarding other things. She focused her attention on developing her sexual self with thoughts like: “I am a sexual being,” and “I enjoy being intimate with my spouse. It makes me feel more connected. It makes me feel whole. It makes me feel alive.” (I was happy to see her say to pray about it. So many people don't pray about sex. I have done this many times throughout our marriage.)
“...you know how you spend a lot of time and effort to develop your spirituality? You go to church regularly. You pray every day. You read your scriptures…It seems that doing those things helps you to see yourself as a spiritual person. Likewise, developing and nourishing your sexuality, so that it becomes a well-developed part of your wholeness–part of your divine identity–might be likened to developing your spirituality.”
“Since we’re trying to change from having a mindset that rarely thinks about your sexuality to one that embraces your sexuality, it may help to see yourself as a sexual being.”
“Where you do not currently see sex as a valid or welcome part of your being, we want to get to a place of thinking, ‘I am a sexual being, and it’s good and of God.’ We want to have a mindset of welcoming sexual thoughts and feelings. We want to develop a default of thinking of your spouse from a place of, ‘I do want to be intimate with you sexually!’
Some highlights...
- Many women don't see sexuality as part of their divine identity, and struggle to fully embrace and develop that aspect of their marriage relationship.
- Men’s primary challenge is to control or bridle their sexual energy, women struggle to awaken and develop both their sexuality and sexual identity.
- We each need to have a deep regard and respect for ourselves as divinely created sexual beings.
Some things she had her client do that can be used to nurture one's sexuality:
1. We identified things she could read or listen to on her cell phone to positively affirm and reprogram her mind about sex. This was similar to how she had been reading and listening to spiritual materials regularly to nurture her spirituality.
2. She started listening to romantic songs on the radio, like she had often listened to church music. She compiled a playlist of songs that made her think about and desire more intimate connection with her husband. This created more balance in her life between music that nourished her spiritually and music that nourished her intimately.
3. She started praying about and changing her self-talk about sex. This was akin to the prayerful thoughts she often had in her heart and mind regarding other things. She focused her attention on developing her sexual self with thoughts like: “I am a sexual being,” and “I enjoy being intimate with my spouse. It makes me feel more connected. It makes me feel whole. It makes me feel alive.” (I was happy to see her say to pray about it. So many people don't pray about sex. I have done this many times throughout our marriage.)
