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Post by KSSunflower on Sept 12, 2017 21:47:33 GMT -6
I was reading this list of tips from Prevention. I thought it had some good ideas. I like how the focus begins before you even enter the bedroom because we all know sex begins in the mind. Prepare the mind, things will go a lot smoother when you're together. At least that is my experience. www.prevention.com/sex/7-women-share-their-best-foreplay-tips |
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Post by NeverGiveUp on Apr 28, 2018 2:52:43 GMT -6
This link points back to this thread.
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Post by KSSunflower on Apr 28, 2018 3:09:14 GMT -6
Link should be fixed now.
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Post by NeverGiveUp on Apr 28, 2018 3:59:24 GMT -6
Thank you.
Interesting article. I liked most of what I read.
One question I had was the sexting. I recently made a sexual comment about what I wanted to do with some raspberries my wife bought for me. She did not think that was sexy at all and in fact later told me that does nothing for her. True for most women?
So how are we supposed to warm up the fire? I think more than likely articles are good for ideas but ultimately talking to our spouses is the best idea. then we can work out how WE WANT to do such things.
Touching outside the bedroom is interesting too. I am not allowed to touch without asking period.
Sexy photo? Forget about it.
Ahh maybe one day.
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Post by KSSunflower on Apr 28, 2018 9:43:58 GMT -6
Did she not enjoy what you said about the raspberries or the sexting altogether?
I enjoy sexting. A good imagination and the right words can put a smile on my face. The real fun is when I engage in the conversation with him.
I think you’re right about having to talk with your spouse about what turns them on, more than following a list.
I see your predicament in not knowing how to get the fire burning when so much is taken off the table. You may have to bring that up and ask what you can do. Does she know what turns her on? If not, like you said, these suggestions can help give you some ideas.
Also, sometimes when we initially try something it doesn’t do much but if we stick with it for awhile we find out how fun it can be. I think the key to anything being enjoyable is that both are willing participants and trying to get into it.
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Post by NeverGiveUp on Apr 28, 2018 17:06:17 GMT -6
She did not enjoy what I said at all. She laughed and then ignored me.
I have tried to sext, but that is met with hours of delays if any at all. She's just not into it.
I think she has no idea what turns her on. If she does, she has never shared it with me.
Honestly, I'm tired of chasing her. I'm trying therapy, and I'll stick with this until my kids have left the house, but ultimately I need a spouse that like and enjoys sex as much as I do. My eternity looks more like eternal torment. I know I'm being a whiner at this point as I'm trying to sort out all of this stuff.
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