Finding peace in my situation

I've been struggling over the years with the mismatched desire in my marriage. I would say I have an average male desire. I could engage every day but am content with once a week. My wife has struggled to come to terms with her limitations. She has depression and takes meds. This severely limits her desire (only a few times a year). She has been trying to avoid resentment and as a result has decided that she will only engage when she is in the mood. I don't want my wife to resent sex so we are working in this capacity at the moment.

I have been trying to focus more on enjoying non-sexual intimacy(holding hands, kissing, hugging, massage) with my wife in order to feel connected. It has been getting better but I still have my times of longing and desire. One thing that I have a hard time with is her seeming dismissal of my needs. It's been a month since we were last together and a few days ago we were talking and she mentioned "we were together just a few days ago" as a reason why I shouldn't be struggling. I think she honestly has no sense of time because it's not nearly as important to her as it is to me.

I'm really trying to focus on improving our relationship so that I can find peace. I know that her desire will not change because it's outside of her control. Only a miracle can change that. I believe at this point if I can find peace with this reality, that is the best approach for both of us. Has anyone else had experience with similar challenges and found peace?

For context, I have been clean from pornography and masturbation for almost a yr so please don't recommend masturbation as a solution. My wife is not comfortable with masturbation so if I want to stay married, I will need abstain. My preference is to be intimate with my wife so I'm ok with this.