Post by KSSunflower on May 30, 2023 11:01:31 GMT -6
Hi everyone! I know it's been FOREVER and I hope you are all doing well.
I recently had a discussion with my son about this subject. He has a gf and of course he wants to spend every possible moment he can with her. He's also super into his sport. He never misses a practice and usually goes to all of the open gyms.
Lately I had noticed he started missing some to go to things with his gf and I had to sit and talk with him because while I want him to spend time with her I also want him to do the things that are for himself. We talked about not completely losing himself in somebody else because when he does want to do those things later they could get upset when he suddenly isn't spending all this time with them. They need to see him and like him as him and the things he does because that's part of who he is as an individual. Not only that, but if they are no longer in his life I don't want him feeling completely lost without them because he gave up everything else that meant anything to him.
I know this probably goes against all that we've been taught about losing ourselves, being selfless in relationships. What do you believe to be a healthy way of balancing personal pursuits and building strong relationships.
I recently had a discussion with my son about this subject. He has a gf and of course he wants to spend every possible moment he can with her. He's also super into his sport. He never misses a practice and usually goes to all of the open gyms.
Lately I had noticed he started missing some to go to things with his gf and I had to sit and talk with him because while I want him to spend time with her I also want him to do the things that are for himself. We talked about not completely losing himself in somebody else because when he does want to do those things later they could get upset when he suddenly isn't spending all this time with them. They need to see him and like him as him and the things he does because that's part of who he is as an individual. Not only that, but if they are no longer in his life I don't want him feeling completely lost without them because he gave up everything else that meant anything to him.
I know this probably goes against all that we've been taught about losing ourselves, being selfless in relationships. What do you believe to be a healthy way of balancing personal pursuits and building strong relationships.
